Sunday, February 5, 2012

I don't like

I hardly ever have a "real" post.  I always have journal-like entries, that are probably only interesting to my family and I, rather than the blogging of opinions and ideas.  But occasionally I have thoughts that bug me a ton, and because I can't write them all down in my actual journal, I'll do a blog post about it.  But this only happens prolly once-ish a year.  For example,  I wrote this post Hate and Anger are Cancerous to the Soul last year.  I'm always amazed by the thoughts that the Spirit can bring to your mind, and the new insights that I gain.  I read this quote the other day via Pinterest and it keeps coming back to me:

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Every 20-something girl could read this and probably know exactly what it is saying.  Lately, many of my single friends have come to me with stories involving these above emotions.  They are "angry" because the guy they like won't make up his mind, "anxious" about the future and what is in store, "jealous" because the girl next door got engaged and she missed the boat again, "overwhelmed" with school and work, "insecure" because they aren't married yet...and the list goes on.

I would have to say that the above list left off "worried".  Every girl is "worried" that there is something wrong with her because she's 22 and not married yet. Maybe this cute quote my mom shared the other day can help to calm their fears:



If that didn't help, here's my advice to my fellow 20-somethings: If you leave the realm of Utah and its idea that "if you're not married by 21, you are an old maid", that you will find that you are just fine.  And when you start freaking out because everyone around you is getting married...look again.  There are a ton of girls feeling the exact same way you are, and they aren't any closer to getting married than you are.

In the end, the timing of everything and the age that you want to be when you get married or get into your school program shouldn't matter.  We should be worried with what the Lord feels is the right timing and the right age for us.  That age may be 20 years old for some, and that age may be 40.  The important thing is to feel happy and complete being single, though it is still important to have the desire to get married.

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Think about it: how can you expect to find someone to marry soon, if you are not happy with yourself right now?  That other person isn't looking for a sad girl who feels she has no self worth.  He is looking for a happy, strong, and faithful girl that he can share eternity with.  Even though that to-do-list, map, or plan you have for life isn't going exactly how you want it to, we know that the Lord has plan and it will lead to a happy future.

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I don't like that girls feel that they need to be married at such a young age.

I don't like that girls can't see how incredibly awesome they are.

I don't like the fact that I don't always know the timing in everything.  I'm a planner and sometimes it is hard to rely on faith, but I know that it is necessary and possible.

I don't like the fact that I can't see where my life is going.  Hindsight is 20-20 and I just wish that sometimes I could put on a pair of glasses and see my future with 20-20 vision.

There are many things I don't like, and I could sit here and complain about them all day long.  But why do that, when there are so many good things to share?  I've been keeping a gratitude journal, and it never ceases to amaze me of the things that you can find to be grateful for.  Even as I look at the things that I don't like, I can find something to be grateful for.  Though I may not like knowing where my life is going exactly, I'm grateful for the surprises that I know will happen along the way and knowing that if I do my part that I can end up happy.  Today in church, there was a lot of talk about self worth and our Heavenly Father's plan.  If we can just do our part, focus on what we know, and rely on faith...then we can be happy and everything will work out however and whenever it should.

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